Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Face Your Fears!

What are you afraid of?

Most of us are afraid of failure or rejection. What if I told you that neither of these things existed? Well, I guess I just did.

Here’s the proof:

Imagine yourself going for a new job. You’ve written your resume and it looks flawless. You bought yourself a new suit (or whatever is appropriate) and you’re pressed, clean, hair looks perfect (in my case, my head is shaved clean). You’ve done your research about the company and possibly the person that is interviewing you. You are confident and ready to get that job. Then something awful happens.

They pick someone else.

Does that mean you’ve been rejected? No.

You don’t know what actually happened for them to choose someone else for that job. You make assumptions that you were not qualified, or overqualified, or they are idiots and have no idea what they want. You don’t know for sure, and you’re wasting energy trying to figure it out.

We only feel rejected when we reject ourselves. We are only failures if we quit. In the above example, if you don’t get the job and you decide there are no more jobs out there, then you are a failure. You quit trying to takes steps forward to get what you want. That’s it.

We reject ourselves way more than other people do. If you just accept that the interview process was a learning process, you’ll succeed much faster because you’re not moping and whining about the economy, the government or whatever or whoever we want to blame.

Our lives are in our control. We only control what we do and how we react to adversity.

I see this happen all the time when it comes to people’s fitness. They get started and they do well for a couple of days or weeks. Then, they are tempted with their favorite food and give in. It’s not the giving in that crushes their hopes of a “perfect figure”.

It’s their mindset.

They begin to call themselves weak. The judge themselves harsher than any other person would. They reject themselves.

Then they quit.

Stop the cycle. See what’s happening.

All you have to do when you get off track is to get back on it immediately. When you notice you’re off track that’s a great thing. It’s the first step to greatness. It’s the awareness that you’re somewhere else instead of where you want to be.

The next step is change.

Choose something different.

You are bigger and better than you can ever possibly imagine and when you continuously make even the smallest steps toward your ideal goal, weight or job, you’ll get there faster than you can ever imagine.

Do more. Be more. Make today your day.

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